One birthday 2 funerals

I celebrated my birthday on 14th May. My dad passed away 18th May and my dear friend's husband passed away on 23rd May. Since May is my birth month and it's spring I really do not want it to be associated with the death of 2 close people. Unfortunately that remained a wishful thinking. And if I get RM100 for every wishful thinking, my face will be next to Oprah in Fortune 500.

The General consensus was my dad died of heart attack but the death cert will tell you he died of fulminant brocho pneumonia with respiratory failure. Rather mouthful to tell the aunties and uncles at the funeral so we just said he died of heart attack. The nature of his death is also rather shady, something like Grey's Anatomy cross Desperate Housewives, full of drama. But that is water under the bridge now and I am sure mum will throw a fit if I blogged about the family dark secrets. (not that I care..)

Very soon after my father's demise, I got to know, my dear friend's hubby also passed away. Obviously the virtual candle not every effective. My 1/4 best friend was keen to go Alor Star to visit our dear friend and since I was back in Ipoh for my father's 'wui wan' night, I decided to follow my 1/4. It was tiring but we detour to Bukit Tambun for a satisfying lunch of seafood.

Seeing dear friend trying her best to hold everything together.. it's hard. Unfortunately we sensed some hostile currents around and I think dear friend will kill me if I blog her deep dark secrets, so I will leave it at there is a big mess for dear friend to sort out and in the process all the good, the bad and the ugly will be revealed.

However dear friend's funeral made me realize that, it is really a big blessing to have true friends and family by my side in times like this. First, I had not 1 but 3 relatives offering to cover the remaining of my dad's funeral expenses even before they know how much is required. Dad's total expenses including his locker at the memorial cost about 11k. Fortunately the "pak kam" manage to cover almost 3/4 of the expenses. But still I am very very touched, and INTPs are not easily touched, by such generous offers from my relatives.

Next, no one came to us to ask for debt repayment (not that we can afford it) and I am sure dad owed people a lot of money left right up down due some unsavory things that he did before he kicked the bucket. We had dad friend's grumbling to us that he left this big black hole or he caused considerable trouble but they told us they will settled it themselves. My dad might not have all the riches in the world but he did have the best of friends.

So I hope dad, wherever you are, be good.